I was standing around talking with a group of neighbors when the conversation suddenly turned to the state of education in our area. Well, our little chat started out as they always do – with a neighbor expressing his point-of-view. But this gathering wouldn’t end like all of the others. This one was different. It was life changing, even, for some. What was so different about this conversation? I’ll tell you right now.
Okay, here’s how it all went down.
“I’m really concerned about the schools around here,” one neighbor began.
“Yeah, we just don’t have that many good schools in this area,” another chimed in.
“We’ve been talking about moving in order to put our kids in school in the Davidson area. All of the schools are good up there,” another concluded.
As you can imagine, the chat went on like this for a while. Perhaps you have participated in a few like this.
Now, stay with me because it really gets interesting.
Although I’ve been a college professor, I claim no superior knowledge about the state of our educational system. I’m just a concerned parent like the rest. Nevertheless, something struck me as odd about the comments. And I just couldn’t put my finger on it. That’s until the first neighbor chimed in again.
“Yeah, we are going to go private. There are some really good private schools around here,” he concluded.
And that’s when it all came together for me.
“I have a question for you guys,” I began. “Tell me, what’s a good school? How do you define a good school?”
“Hmmm,” one went.
“Wow, good question,” said another.
“I never thought about it,” the final neighbor concluded.
“Interesting, right?” I chimed in. “We are all talking about putting our children in good schools and we don’t even know what a good school is.”
As if being conducted by a bandleader, all of the neighbor’s heads nodded in agreement.
So, here’s the deal: If you don’t define it, you most certainly won’t find it. And “it” can be a school, person, job or what have you. Just think of the number of times you’ve heard a friend say that they want a “good job” or “good man or woman”. Or many it was you. Nevertheless, how often did they find either? Probably never.
It’s not that they are not capable. They are. They simply don’t know what to look for and thus find nothing. But I have a solution. In a future post, I will share the most powerful way to define what you want and at a minimum, get it 91% of the time. That’s if you follow the formula.